In your own words, what does motherhood mean to you?
I had no idea I was living life in black and white. Since the day my first was born, I now see in technicolor. The world just looks different in the eyes of a mother. Everything makes sense in a different way. Having another compounds that love and joy. Raising a child is the most important calling I’ve ever stepped up to. To all the mommas out there [biological, adoptive, birth mom’s, surrogates, moms-to-be and mom’s who are waiting and praying for a baby one day…to love a human outside of your heart that baby may not even be in your arms yet as passionately as you do is just a taste of the love our creator has for us. What a gift it is to see the unconditional love of a mother to a child from the outside in, even more so to be the recipient of that love and far more so to be the giver of that love.
How Many Children Do You Have?
What are your must-have newborn baby items?
Gripe water and the nested bean swaddle blanket!
Tell us about the first days of bringing your baby home, the ups and the downs.
We arrived home to our parents and our sweet son standing outside to greet us. Watching my baby boy become a brother and love on and help with his sister has been my greatest joy! This sweet girl has been such a good baby and has given us no trouble at all! However, getting out the door with two babies is way harder than it used to be!
Did you bottle or breastfeed, what is your advice for new mothers?
Breastfeeding didn’t work out for me either time and I’m happy to be able to feed my children anyways! My advice is this – we are so blessed that we can feed our children. Period. If breastfeeding doesn’t work out, that’s okay. You can still love your babies with all your heart and formula feed. They’ll be just fine and so will you!
What are some of your most cherished memories of motherhood?
My son and I love to turn on music and dance together. I carry him in my arms and dance with him like we’re at a function on the dance floor. We’ve done this together since he was born and it’s one of the moments that I’m certain I’ll look back on and miss so much when he’s grown! As for our sweet baby girl, so far the best memories made have been our moments in the quiet, rocking together. I know this age is fleeting and I want to soak it all in!
What most surprised you about motherhood?
Honestly, the mom-guilt. That one took me by surprise. I always say that motherhood is 10% what you do and 90% feeling guilty some way or another.
What has been your greatest challenge in motherhood?
Honestly, it’s been a challenge learning to cat aside that nagging need to do it all. Take Christmas, for example. Santa is no longer enough. We have to do elf on a self, the giving manger, an advent, Christmas cookies, gingerbread houses and still have perfectly wrapped gifts under the tree. The reality is that just because moms are posting it on Instagram doesn’t mean we have to do it. My children will be okay. I am not a bad mom if there isn’t a chalkboard for them to hold every year on the first day of school.
Has your style changed since becoming a mom?
Yes!! It’s much more comfort-based. I find myself pulling outfits together that I can wear sneakers with more often than not!
If you get any “me time”, how do you wind down or spend it?
The Bachelor and a cocktail. I’m not above it. Oh… and a love myself a long, hot, epsom salt bath. But honestly, these days, I’m doing well to find the time to brush my teeth.
How has having a baby changed your relationship?
It has been such a blessing to our relationship. We immediately became partners. The concept of teamwork in marriage became a reality as soon as he was born. That dynamic works really well for us and I am so blessed that my husband is a giving and servant-hearted man who values his role as a husband and dad over everything else! He’s also pretty easy on the eyes, I think! 😉
Looking back to your first days of parents, what would you tell yourself?
It’s not rocket science. It’s not easy, but it’s not impossible. Reading and research are good to do, but there is a point in which you can know TOO MUCH as a parent and it can be detrimental to the task at hand, namely in the form of fear. Follow your heart, listen to your gut, ask for help.
What is your greatest joy in being a mother?
THEIR SMILES!!!!! Honestly, I look at them and think they’re so incredibly amazing! It brings me such joy that God saw us fit to raise these two!
If you could give your child(ren) one piece of advice what would it be?
Love the LORD your God with all your heart and soul and mind and strength. Then, love others. It’s impossible to do wrong when you’re living out love!
Kind words about your photographer? Tell us about your session and what the images mean to you.
I call Alicia the baby whisperer!! She made these beautiful images happen, even though BOTH kiddos were melting down the entire time! She is talented and fun to work with!!
MEET THE PHOTOGRAPHER
Hi, I’m Alicia. First and foremost, I am a follower of Jesus Christ. However, I am also an Air Force veteran, wife to an Army veteran & Texas State Trooper, a mommy to two beautiful daughters and one handsome son and a chaser of light who lives to record life’s most beautiful moments. My job is to be a storyteller and create images that evoke raw emotion. I deliver a high-end, custom boutique experience with high quality heirloom art products clients can’t find anywhere else.